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On the left is my cousin Charles, on the right his his fiancée Doug who passed away Saturday night. Please read the following story and share.
"Loosing a partner is heartbreaking on it’s own but being left financially devastated simply because your relationship is not legally recognized is an atrocity and having no legal rights to attend your partners memorial service is a tragedy.
Charles and Doug have been in love for eight years but never could get married by law in their state. Four months ago they packed up their lives and spent their savings to relocate to Washington state where same sex marriage is now legal and planned to be married shortly after.
Doug worked for the airlines and Charles hadn’t yet secured a job in their new city when suddenly Doug fell Ill and was admitted to the ICU and passed not long after leaving Charles too distraught to even think about financial logistics.
Had they been married Charles would have been given several death benefits including Doug’s 401k, his Union death benefits and Social Security death benefits. He also would have inherited Doug’s estate including savings accounts. But because the person he fell in love with happened to be a man, he has been denied the financial security a spouse is entitled to.
Charles is now unable to afford his rent and must move out. Since he lost the only family he really has in this new city, he would like to pack up their belongings and move himself and their pets to Arizona to live with friends until he can recuperate and get on his feet again. But with little more than Doug’s last paycheck to live on he is stranded and alone.
Furthermore, Charles was informed by Doug’s mother that he is not welcome or allowed to come to the memorial service because it might make the other attendants uncomfortable due to the nature of their relationship. Because they were unable to marry Charles has no legal authority to be a part of the memorial service of the man he shared his life with. He will only be allowed to come and view the urn before anyone else arrives on this Friday the 19th in Oregon. At this time he is unsure of how he will afford this trip.
Even though he is owed so much more, I am hoping we can raise the money at least for him to say his goodbyes to Doug in Oregon and enough for him to move and survive during this transition.
Many friends and family have asked what they can do to help and there is plenty!
Please share this fundraiser on your social media outlets.
If you don’t have the means to donate, think of ways you can raise money. Bake sales, carwash, sell unused items on craigslist?
Even small donations add up quickly. I’m sure you wouldn’t miss $5 if that’s all you have to give. Lets show him that he’s not alone.
Most importantly tell everyone you know about the real cost of denying all humans equal liberties. Share this story with others.
Don’t forget to send your love and positive thoughts to Charles right now. This is the hardest moment of his life and its a tragedy to see such a beautiful soul be so broken and lost.”
My cousin needs help. Please please share, spread his story, being denied his rights because he is gay. It’s not fair that he will not be allowed to attend his love’s service or funeral. If you can donate please do!!! Please help us show Charles that he has the love and support of so many.